How to Support a Friend with Breast Cancer

Tips for being present, helpful, and supportive

When someone you love is diagnosed with breast cancer, it can be difficult to know what to say or do. You might worry about saying the wrong thing or feel helpless in the face of their pain. But the truth is — your presence, care, and understanding can make an enormous difference. Support is one of the most powerful medicines a person can receive during their healing journey.

1. Just Be There — Listen Without Judgment

Sometimes, the best support isn’t in words but in your presence. Sit with your friend. Let her talk if she wants to, or sit quietly if she doesn’t. Avoid rushing to give advice or trying to “fix” things. Instead, focus on listening with empathy.

Statements like “That must be really hard” or “I’m here for you” go much further than trying to find silver linings. Remember: she doesn’t need you to solve the problem — she needs you to stand with her through it.

Tip: Avoid saying things like “Everything happens for a reason” or “At least it’s not worse.” While well-meaning, these comments can feel dismissive of real pain.

2. Offer Practical Help

When someone is going through treatment, everyday tasks can become exhausting. You can help by offering specific, practical support — not just saying “Let me know if you need anything.”

• Cook a meal or organize a meal train with friends.
• Help with childcare, grocery shopping, or transportation to appointments.
• Send a small care package — comfy socks, herbal tea, or a journal.
• Offer to take notes during doctor visits or help keep track of medications.

Small gestures show big love. Practical help allows your friend to focus her energy on healing.

3. Respect Her Privacy and Choices

Every person’s journey with breast cancer is different. Some people want to talk openly about their diagnosis; others prefer privacy. Respect her boundaries and how she chooses to share her story.